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Rank: Veteran Joined: 15 Jan 2011 Posts: 726

Ever been with someone that will do everything for you one week, then shut off the next?

Well, I gave this guy like, the 50th chance at the start of this year, to make this relationship go right.
And he suddenly switches off, and when I speak to him, I get this:

''Just stop messaging me. Please. I'm doing something.''

That's his way of saying, leave me alone.
The thing is. It's like, an on/off relationship. and, him just backing off for a few days, he thinks it's okay to just toddle back?

I'm getting hurt too much. But I don't know how to tell him : ''I don't want to keep this up, to keep sleeping with you, or being with you, just for you to keep pushing me away''

I need help..
This has literally been my first relationship. And it's been going on for a year and a half. I don't know how to be with someone else, and I don't know how to make him back off for good when I still want us to stay friends.

Rank: Mr. Fabulous Joined: 24 Dec 2010 Posts: 517

I would try to be truthful with him. If the relationship is going nowhere, then I wouldn't see why to continue on. I had an ex that did the same thing. A month later, we talked about it, agreed that the relationship wan't going anywhere, then we just split up.

Rank: Veteran Joined: 15 Jan 2011 Posts: 726

But. It's hard to bring up a breakup. when we arent techincally IN a relationship, if you get me.

And I will reply to you, i'm just having a little 'im upset' moment, aheh. I'll get a bath and calm myself down.

Rank: Mr. Fabulous Joined: 24 Dec 2010 Posts: 517

Ah, I see. Well, ask him what his true feeling about you are. That often determines rather or not to stay friends.

It's cool, just calm down and relax. I'll be harer all day to wait for your reply Smile

Rank: Veteran Joined: 15 Jan 2011 Posts: 726

Thanks. You guys are really sweet.

I'd be a wreck if it wasn't for you guys talking to me and cheering me up!

So thanks! ^-^

Rank: Mr. Fabulous Joined: 24 Dec 2010 Posts: 517

No problem, it's always fun to help people out.

It make me happy to help someone feel better. Very Happy

Rank: Veteran Joined: 15 Jan 2011 Posts: 726

<3
Had my bath ^0^

Rank: Veteran Joined: 15 Jan 2011 Posts: 726

it appears, he was just reinstalling windows.

but still. I just don't wanna be with him anymore.. xD

Rank: Mr. Fabulous Joined: 24 Dec 2010 Posts: 517

First: welcome back ^_^

Second: If that's how you really feel, then just tell him.

Rank: Veteran Joined: 15 Jan 2011 Posts: 726

Well. He's asleep now. I shall have to meet him. and tell him. It would be unfair to say it online XP

but thanks!

Rank: Mr. Fabulous Joined: 24 Dec 2010 Posts: 517

Sounds like a plan to me. It would be kind of rude to break it off via internet lol.

((ready to continue our rp?))

Rank: Veteran Joined: 15 Jan 2011 Posts: 726

Indeed. it's good to know ima be single now. xD

And sure!

Rank: Mr. Fabulous Joined: 24 Dec 2010 Posts: 517

Hey, I bet trere's alot of intresting guys who would love to be with you. Wink

Just got to keep searching untill you find him.

Royal Member of BonBon Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 6010

I know the feeling. I knew a girl who used me and objectified everything we discussed. She always said I used her when I did everything she asked of me, and I just had to break it off. I could'nt read any of her actions and she still does try to get back with me.

Royal Member of BonBon Joined: 20 Oct 2009 Posts: 12351

My advice, tell him straight. Tell him how he is making you feel. He shouldn't be shutting you out like that. It's not right.

Royal Member of BonBon Joined: 28 Jan 2008 Posts: 4122

be to the point and if he can't accept that he's not a man.

Rank: Super Veteran Joined: 08 Sep 2010 Posts: 4141

I agree with Silvador on this one.

Though I am very sorry that you are having these problems.

Rank: Veteran Joined: 14 Nov 2010 Posts: 728

I was very attached to a girl like that........over her but the damage is done

Royal Member of BonBon Joined: 27 Jul 2005 Posts: 2568

There's this old saying "3rd times the charm."

If I've learned anything from other people's relationships, the more times you keep trying to get back together, the more obvious it becomes to all those around you that the relationship is doomed.

Myself, I've never gotten back with anyone I broke up with. . or rather who broke up with me. As someone who always seems to just bare the burden on the inside and keep moving forward, the feelings pass and can never come back. Its sad, but that's spoken from a purely logical stance and not from the heart.

Rank: Veteran Joined: 14 Nov 2010 Posts: 728

I went back with the gal I'm talking about 5 times......I'm too loyal, its a detriment

Rank: Veteran Joined: 14 Nov 2010 Posts: 728

I went back with the gal I'm talking about 5 times......I'm too loyal, its a detriment