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PleasureBonBon Forum -> PleasureBonBon.com Personal Stuff ~ Little/Very Upset. |
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 2:02 pm
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Ever been with someone that will do everything for you one week, then shut off the next?
Well, I gave this guy like, the 50th chance at the start of this year, to make this relationship go right.
And he suddenly switches off, and when I speak to him, I get this:
''Just stop messaging me. Please. I'm doing something.''
That's his way of saying, leave me alone.
The thing is. It's like, an on/off relationship. and, him just backing off for a few days, he thinks it's okay to just toddle back?
I'm getting hurt too much. But I don't know how to tell him : ''I don't want to keep this up, to keep sleeping with you, or being with you, just for you to keep pushing me away''
I need help..
This has literally been my first relationship. And it's been going on for a year and a half. I don't know how to be with someone else, and I don't know how to make him back off for good when I still want us to stay friends. |
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 2:12 pm
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I would try to be truthful with him. If the relationship is going nowhere, then I wouldn't see why to continue on. I had an ex that did the same thing. A month later, we talked about it, agreed that the relationship wan't going anywhere, then we just split up. |
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 2:15 pm
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 2:21 pm
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Ah, I see. Well, ask him what his true feeling about you are. That often determines rather or not to stay friends.
It's cool, just calm down and relax. I'll be harer all day to wait for your reply  |
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 2:23 pm
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 2:25 pm
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No problem, it's always fun to help people out.
It make me happy to help someone feel better.  |
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 2:59 pm
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 3:00 pm
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 3:03 pm
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First: welcome back ^_^
Second: If that's how you really feel, then just tell him. |
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 3:04 pm
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 3:05 pm
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Sounds like a plan to me. It would be kind of rude to break it off via internet lol.
((ready to continue our rp?)) |
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 3:07 pm
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 3:09 pm
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Hey, I bet trere's alot of intresting guys who would love to be with you. Just got to keep searching untill you find him. |
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 3:49 pm
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I know the feeling. I knew a girl who used me and objectified everything we discussed. She always said I used her when I did everything she asked of me, and I just had to break it off. I could'nt read any of her actions and she still does try to get back with me. |
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Fri Jan 28, 2011 6:18 pm
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My advice, tell him straight. Tell him how he is making you feel. He shouldn't be shutting you out like that. It's not right. |
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Fri Feb 04, 2011 4:08 am
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Fri Feb 04, 2011 5:37 am
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I agree with Silvador on this one.
Though I am very sorry that you are having these problems. |
_________________ "Nothing is so strong as gentleness. Nothing is so gentle as real strength."- From your sincere gentleman of PBB |
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Fri Feb 04, 2011 9:05 am
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I was very attached to a girl like that........over her but the damage is done |
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Sat Feb 05, 2011 12:22 pm
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There's this old saying "3rd times the charm."
If I've learned anything from other people's relationships, the more times you keep trying to get back together, the more obvious it becomes to all those around you that the relationship is doomed.
Myself, I've never gotten back with anyone I broke up with. . or rather who broke up with me. As someone who always seems to just bare the burden on the inside and keep moving forward, the feelings pass and can never come back. Its sad, but that's spoken from a purely logical stance and not from the heart. |
_________________ The suspense is killing me. I hope it will last. |
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Sat Feb 05, 2011 1:49 pm
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I went back with the gal I'm talking about 5 times......I'm too loyal, its a detriment |
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Sat Feb 05, 2011 1:51 pm
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I went back with the gal I'm talking about 5 times......I'm too loyal, its a detriment |
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